fears in life

The Hindrance of failure – By Dex Foster

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The Hindrance of failure – By Dex Foster

           The Hindrance of failure – By Dex Foster – February 23rd 2022

When a person with low self-esteem is presented with an opportunity to learn and grow, they will refuse thinking that they won’t be successful and doubt themselves and their abilities. This further cements their ideas of failure and hinders gains of growth in the individual.

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           I created my thesis statement as well to represent the lack of confidence in myself and the doubting of my own abilities and how it’s kind of brought me down. My thesis statement quotes quotations when a person with low self-esteem is presented with an opportunity to learn and grow, they refuse to think that they won’t be successful and to doubt themselves and their abilities. This further cements Their ideas of failure and hinders gains of growth in individuals. This is reflective in more parts of my life and one, part of it is the lack of motivation I have to do work and things that I enjoy. This was once referenced by my image showing a photo of a pencil and paper representing my love to draw.

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The art project I feel was neglected due to my insecurities in my efforts.

As I get older drawing becomes increasingly more difficult it makes it more complicated to draw when I just don’t have the time. The biggest part is self-doubt and laziness. I myself never like to see the products because I felt that I could be more successful. I would draw and draw and I would never come across an ability or skill that I could adapt to create something I like. I felt as though I couldn’t be successful and it hindered my ability to really hone in and practice my skills in Drawing. Another image represented by bicycle in my image conveys that I used to really enjoy mountain biking, it was one of my favorite outdoor pastimes besides camping and if you’re doing It together.

 

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I began to start choosing easier video games, in particular, and it meant I was falling behind with my skills with the people I enjoyed biking with. I made it harder to continue to go out and do this because I would never be as successful in attempting trips and jumps as I was with my friends.

My 1981 VW scirocco, my ever lasting project

The tools are representative of my car, I enjoy working on it and I enjoy driving it but many times I worry about failure and the impacts that it will cost me. Many times I am able and have time to work on it and I will enjoy it, but failure looms in as making a mistake can cost me more money in time. I’ve become less confident with my abilities. I feel more reliant on my father for help with my vehicle and it only further appreciates my value of myself. All of this links back to make a statement about my life that one percent with an opportunity to grow I will refuse because I feel that the time will be wasted and it will only further push me away from doing what I enjoy.

True Vision Blind Eyes

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True Vision Blind Eyes

Through color can an individual experience life in its full form. True color shows a perspective of the world where everything they see has more meaning outside of the obvious. Through the significance of looking versus seeing, can people be filtered out from the monotone black and white, to the optimistic colorful mix. Human interaction being the making of a bond through methods of feeling and emotion is vital for individuals to live a happy and open life. Open being understanding, like the blind man in the short story, Cathedral, written by Raymond Carver. The act of seeing in Cathedral is linked to physical eyesight, yet seeing involves a higher level of engagement. The storyteller/narrator demonstrates that he has complete vision. When the narrator arrives, he looks at his house and wife, as well as at the blind man. Because the narrator has working eyesight, he assumes that he is higher and stronger wiser than the blind man, whose name is Robert. The narrator claims that Robert’s eyesight prevents him from being able to make a lady like his wife content, let alone live a regular life. The wife’s husband is convinced that vision is everything, and he makes no effort to perceive anything beyond the surface. This explains why he doesn’t really know his wife. Robert, in comparison, has a much deeper meaning to the use of seeing even with the conflict of not physically being able to. Robert better  understands the narrator’s wife despite the fact that he has never seen her. This is because he has a greater sense of value and understanding of life. The irony of the short story reflects on how even people with eye sight or understanding may not be able to get a full grasp of what’s going on whereas people who may not be as privileged will because they don’t assume like the ones before. The narrator reflects a man of monotony as the story reflects that he has no meaning in life and judges a person based on physical characteristics. Reflecting on more relatable examples, this individual is the one who goes about their day with no emotional status, leading them to become dull and bland. On the other hand an individual like Robert is one that senses emotion through personality traits and seeks to find a person’s true self through in depth relationship building and creating strong bonds. 

 

Reflecting on my personal history I feel that I have been on both sides of the story. There was a time where because of my constant low grades and inability to do work I dug myself a rabbit hole where I would not put in effort for human interaction or school work because I couldn’t see a reason to do so. At this time everyone around me felt like shadows moving around, going about their lives. I was like a stop sign where all my friends would go about passing me while checking in once or twice even if I wouldn’t reply. This posed a great conflict because at that stage I was not able to do anything with my life. My light through that dark tunnel were my close friends as they reminded me how life was once colorful. They were as significant as the blind man in the short story as they led to my awakening and getting my life back on track. Now I can successfully go about my business and keep a great circle while also doing good in school because I know that the impossible is only as impossible as I make it. This bump in my life taught me a great lesson that sometimes one must pretend to be blind to truly see what the full picture is. This short story reflects how the difference in looking and seeing can play the greatest factor in an individual’s personality and therefore life itself.

Fear Of Failure

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When external pressures are constantly placed on an anxious individual, the increase of stress distracts their minds and makes them lose focus, leading to failure in completing their tasks.

This thesis statement pretty much ties into a certain aspect of me and the events and occurrences in my life. In my life, there have been times where I become anxious of what to expect of the future, or anxious of decisions that I have made. That anxiety makes the problem look bigger than it actually is, and holds me back from doing the best at my tasks. I become easily stressed, and thats stress distracts me from what I need to accomplish. Instead of trying to do the best that I can, I feel like I’ve become very burdened and I end up focussing on what’s going to happen if I fail. This highlights the part in my thesis where I mentioned that stressed individuals become distracted and lose focus because they’re so focussed on what’s going t happen if they fail, that they do.

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The fear of failure is also very common in life. When people are given a task to accomplish, or they have goals they want to live up to, fearing failure stresses them out. They try to attain perfection, but unfortunately can’t because their minds become too distracted. They focus on trying not to fail, rather than doing the best they can. People who also have external pressures from their peers, parents, and others around them also become easily stressed when it comes to completing a task. During our school times, it’s our parents especially who pressure us to be the best at what we’re trying to do. This, however, leads to that build-up of stress and sometimes makes us do worse than what we were expected of, or wanted regardless. Learning to control those fears, take advantage of them, and use them for our betterment can help people who fear failure and want to be successful.

Nelson Mandela, a giant of our time

Fear isn’t a bad thing, but honing it and using it to better ourselves and our betterment is what can make us victorious. As Nelson Mandela once said, “The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”.

The fear of failure is so common in life that some people can’t control it, which results in them failing at what they were trying to accomplish anyways. I have a bad habit of procrastinating, which has a heavy impact on my ability to get things done and do things to the best of my ability. One such example of this would be one time In grade 9 when we had a multimedia campaign presentation on different groups living in Canada. I put it off for a little while, but regretted it the weekend before it was due. I ended up stressing and working non-stop that whole weekend because I still had majority of the project remaining. Although I did spend a lot of time on it and did end up getting a good mark, I was not so happy with the way I did it. While working on it, I could’ve done better if I had a bit more focus. But at the time, I was so afraid of failing that looking back, I realize I could have done a bit better than what I had aimed for.

Failure is common everywhere, but its commonality has instilled fears of failure in me whenever I try to do something new. It leads to me feeling burdened and stressed, therefore leading me to procrastination, stalling, and other bad habits. People who become easily anxious and stressed by pressures in life end up failing or doing poorly on their tasks because they lack the ability to control their fears.

References:

“MEN’S HEALTH: 6 Ways Stress Can Be Healthy”. Shawn Achor, 2021, http://www.shawnachor.com/project/mens-health-6-ways-stress-can-be-healthy/. Accessed 22 Sept 2021.

“Nelson Mandela, A Giant Of Our Time”. UNESCO, 2021, https://en.unesco.org/courier/november-1995/nelson-mandela-giant-our-time. Accessed 22 Sept 2021.